The debate "It's better to explain to children the reason why you say no than give only a negative answer" was started by
March 5, 2014, 4:13 pm.
64 people are on the agree side of this discussion, while 6 people are on the disagree side.
That might be enough to see the common perception.
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echofrommadiun posted 1 argument, tkershaw3 posted 1 argument, I_Voyager posted 1 argument, PsychDave posted 1 argument to the agreers part.
SalonY posted 1 argument to the disagreers part.
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SalonY and 5 visitors disagree.
Yaa its true...bt the fact is that everything can't be explined to the wards before they come to a right age
If your child asks why they can't go play on the road, explaining could keep them safe since they won't think that it is only not OK when you are looking.
I think you're probably right on that one Tkershaw3. I think it's simple enough to know when you're child will or will not find an explanation sufficient, and after the point of explanation being rejected, be authoritative. I think it can be as simple sometimes as "Because I am your parent and I expect you to do X". Reasoning with your child is fine, but sometimes your child will try to argue their way out of your reasoning, and at that point it needs to be remembered that parenting isn't a debate.
OK, so this is true, we shouldn't just be authoritarian with our kids. But this only goes so far. A lot of times a kid will see your constant explaining as a weakness and just pitch a fit because you can't explain away a fit. Sometimes you just need to be in control because you're the adult and they're the child.
When children ask something to their parents or want them to do something bad, sometimes the parents just say no and give the negative answer. It is better for parents to explain the reason why they say no. They have to explain clearly why it is bad or forbidden and hopefully, children will understand later on.