The debate "Just because someone is your family doesn't mean you have an obligation to love them." was started by
August 22, 2015, 1:56 am.
50 people are on the agree side of this discussion, while 11 people are on the disagree side.
That might be enough to see the common perception.
It looks like most of the people in this community are on the agreeing side of this statement.
PandaKidd posted 1 argument to the agreers part.
klmnssu posted 1 argument, Lane posted 1 argument to the disagreers part.
PandaKidd, theQueenofdebate, sabrina, drofaw, sloanstar1000, desght, Yuki_Amayane, The_lamp, PsychDave, Skeetc15, Exirdraz, DeliriousMadam, DanielleR123, BennieBenston, countrybumpkin, sidhant, wayneSPEC, Tristanzee, Hellrazor, Katana_MC, abby1212, AstroSpace, athinus, WaspToxin, toffeebrush, StarSoul, bigbuttgal and 23 visitors agree.
klmnssu, roy, gouthamabi, poetspotions, Lane, Zeno and 5 visitors disagree.
Personally, I would forgive my family for almost anything. That said, they have not done anything so horrible for me to stop loving them. It's an awkward subject that I can see both sides of, but im tempted to agree with klmnssu. Our family is the reason we are here today, biologically. I'd also like to make the point that family can really be anyone who loves you, cares for you, understands you, and sees your potential. Unfortunately, this isn't always that person's original parents. But by that definition of family, it would follow that if someone shows you love and you know they care about you, you should return this kindness. If this topic is strictly limited to biological family, i'd have to agree that we aren't obligated to love them, because there's so many instances where families just break apart and you can't love them anymore, divorce is an example. But, if that family is a loving one in which the adults and any children feel loved, the family should all feel morally obligated not to hate each other, if that makes sense.
I know that a lot of people are going to say that family is love and family is life. Beyond the family connection though, they are just people. What about situations where the family is dysfunctional? Where there is no dad because he left to fulfill his own selfish needs? Or there's no mom because she left to seek out new company? A family like the Duggars where the brother is molesting his sisters in their sleep for years? A family where the sister physically abuses her brother? I don't think it would be right or even morally just to ask any of these people to love that person. Especially if they have trauma or feel violated and used.
family is the place where we open our eyes for the first time. there is a mom who makes lots of sacrifises carries for 9 months etc. there is a dad who is the streght source. there are siblings who are our first friends..