The debate "No sex before marriage" was started by
January 4, 2016, 9:16 am.
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here's an interesting thing you either forgot or didn't even know about. the point, the essence, the fundamental reason for us being able to have sex(and get pleasure of it) is to REPRODUCE AND INCREASE POPULATION. the only (ans actual) plausible explanation why Allah(s.t.a.) made it possible for human beings.
In a perfect world, I guess. But we live in the real world. It's always a good idea to save yourself but if people want to have sex, they will. There is no stopping them. Might as well provide birth control and condoms. Knowledge of the subject is critical. It is in our human nature to have sex. Mostly because of reproducing. But our bodies like what they like. We need to protect ourselves because the brain doesn't always do the thinking.
it is the choice of the couple
While that might have some truth to it, pregnancy, child birth, and abortion has declined in every state since sex ed has been introduced in schools, whether it encourages contraceptives and abstinence or abstinence only.
I'm not sure I understand your question. but education focused on abstinence doesn't usually teach much about how to have safe sex. the idea being that if you aren't having sex you don't need to do so safely.
the problem is that abstinence education doesn't increase abstinence. but not teaching kids to have safe sex does correlate to more teen pregnancy, STDs etc.
What statistic relates people being taught abstinence is the best way to not using contriceptives.
it is statistically proven that abstinence based sex Ed does not increase rates of abstinence. it does however reduce the rate of safe sex. therefore preaching abstinence causes more teen pregnancy.
And in the article you listed, it said that Mississippi and New Mexico had the highest teen birth rates, and they didn't even require sex ed. So that doesn't even back up your theory because neither of those states have required abstinence-only sex ed.
It's called simple logic that school administrators and curriculum writers use. If a school or area of schools or even a state of schools is having an issue that impedes on education (violence, teen pregnancy, etc), they make stricter rules or education that teaches against it. For example, Lol Angeles public schools introduced antivoilence and uniforms in their schools. It is still one of the worst school districts in the state. Does that mean that uniforms cause violent and unruly actions in teens?
sex like any art,should be learnt and practiced through countless experiences in relationships. You can never be good at a go.
you have that completely backwards. do you have any sources to back up what you say?
Those states had high teen birth rates before it implement that kind of sex ed. Those states emphasize abstinence because they have high teen birth rates, not they have high teen birth rates because they emphasize abstinence.
isn't it funny that states with abstinence only education have the highest teen pregnancy rates?
so what if she got pregnant at 16 years old? she would have to wait for 9 months do deliver the baby. none of the kids and teens deserve to go through all this - the pain when delivering the baby, contemplating on who should take care of the baby when she's gone, where to get the money to feed the baby and etc. at this age, they should be studying at school, having fun socializing or partying with friends and family, not sit in the house and worry about unnecessary issues. plus she's young and may not be capable of making rational decisions and do things in a proper way.
there's a reason why there are laws on not to commit adultery before marriage. laws are for our own good it serves its purpose and would avoid each and everyone of us from getting into hot water. and it's pretty simple, if you broke it, you will suffer its consequences. likewise, sex are meant for married couples. that is when you are old and mature enough to care about all that is said above because you know between what is right and wrong thus, would make the right decision about things. and so there will be less complications in the family. this is why its better to not take any risks and have sex before marriage. the consequence for instance; you might have STD or AIDS having unprotected or even protected sex .or delivering child with mental or physical disabilities. cost to all these are also costly which is why sex before marriage is unacceptable.
also kids and teens today have been brainwashed by the medias. they are put in a situation to believe that having sex before marriage is cool. by watching romance dramas , they believe that the only way to express your partner that you love them is by having sex which is why everyone is doing it today. kids need to know that you dont have to have sex with someone to show that you love them - there are a lot of ways you could do besides having sexual relations like buying gifts for them and etc. they need to know when one is attracted to you psychically or emotionally. having sex before marriage shows that your partner is psychically attracted to you and he is not attracted to you but your body. in another words, he/she is just using you for sex. If HE GENUINELY LOVES YOU HE WOULD WAIT FOR YOU TO TURN 25 AND GET MARRIED AND HAVE SEX
Just seen a different argument saying the emotional connection could be reason to abstain.I feel like it is singing that can be interpreted in many different was.
This is a very interesting question! I'm surprised how balanced the opinions are as well, with equal amounts of people agreeing as disagreeing.
I would say that unprotected sex should not be done before marriage as it is irresponsible to bring a vulnerable child into a family that is not yet committed to staying together. It seems unfair to raise a child together if you are open to the idea of breaking up. Whilst divorce is a very common occurrence, marriage at least provides a bit more of a hastened of a stable childhood.
I was interested by the argument that sex would help to build a stronger relationship before marriage. I hadn't thought of it in that way!
Perhaps we should focus on discouraging promiscuity instead of premarital sex, as the latter is more likely to have a psychological out physical (e.g STDs) impact on the participants.
Whatever the conclusion, it is important to respect each other's opinion and avoid concerning someone for their approach. Religions should be free to have their resignation, and people should not be judged for acts that have not negatively impacted others.
The hormones released during intercourse cause you to create a strong attachment to the other person. Such a strong attachment that if you continually break up and have sex with other people it permanently damages the part of the brain in charge of releasing this hormone, causing less and less happy relationships and more and more depression- especially in women. Also, it makes it way easier for the other person to take advantage of you. So basically don't sleep around. And the easiest way to not sleep around is to just wait until marriage, or at least until you know you want to marry this person. Because if you don't want to marry that person you probably shouldn't sleep with them anyway.
mandated abstance only sex ed in high schools.
passing laws through the legislator, whether national or state, is not "suggesting"
we can suggest not to do things. that's ok. We can say what we believe. that's ok.
to all the fundamental Muslims, Christians and others. it is perfectly legal for you to abstain if you want to.
the laws of your religion tell YOU how to live YOUR life. do not infringe on the decisions of others.
ok.to the Jedi attachment is forbidden. but that is also rediculous and unrelated.
iIn ISLAM, sex before marriage is a SIN
why would anyone even care about their new spouse being a virgin? the reasons for it are outdated and pointless.
I was not a virgin when I got married, and my spouse knew that. Why do you feel that you have the right to tell two consenting adults what to do?
Let's face it nobody wants to tell their future spouse why they aren't a virgin, so restrain yourself.