The debate "Whats a good advice app" was started by
April 19, 2016, 12:18 pm.
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danielle posted 1 argument to the agreers part.
danielle, cbelltec, thunderstorm and 9 visitors agree.
As you said, only you can take this decision.
If I were you, rally wanting to study something, I would go for it.
My partnert would have to be supporting with this. If he isn't, would't be good enough for me.
If I were you, I def. would have a distance relationship to see if the relationship and committment is as strong as for having children.
Children are a long term committment and you both have to be involved. In my eyes, it's not about you giving up your career to have them and take care of them: both in a couple have to adapt their lives and both have to sacrifice something.
If I were you, I wouldn't even think of having children before finishing my studies. I did fall pregnant and not being able to finish my PhD is something that still hurts inside. But that's me. I got twins. Even with a university background and publication record, I wasn't able to go back to my former research career because of all those months missing at NICU and all that later came. It depends on your situation.
Having children is not easy, it means a lot of work and time, that you and your partner should be able to give them.
Since you are only 19 I would say you have plenty of time ahead, to plan, get a good job and savings and to be psicologically ready.
... I don't know about this. I want to give advice,and say that if you want to change, I mean, that you will, then universities should provide no problems in doing so, so long as your grades produce results . With children, I would say a little later on when there isn't school and work at the same time,not all instructors are as understanding, while one boss is easier to manage about, even if it's a flat out No on certain time off. You should utilize school when you can, because getting back in or taking a break doesn't make it easy. Your boyfriend should get some time on a regular basis, even a regular phone call, not text, for maybe thirty minutes twice a week. Talking is crucial, and supposedly to maintain strong friendships/relationships, twice a week communication is necessary. Even if it is shallow talk. Nowadays you can even facetime someone, and video call, which adds quality.
But I really don't know, I don't try long distance relationships,and I don't have a plan for a future with children, but my college hasn't dropped support when I wanted to change majors. I have seen people take their babies to classes though, and even universities that aren't prestigious go a long way. But seeing as for what you want... I advise waiting.
well it's quite a long story but here goes
Okay so I have a major dilemma going on right now and really I'm the only person that can decide, but I want to know if there is anyone who has had the same or similar dilemma to me and the way they felt with it.
Okay so here it is.
I'm 19 and have just received all my offers for university, to study Biology. My first choice uni was Exeter University who offered me ABB, (they're my first choice as it is only a 20 minute train ride from my house and I loved it when I visited it) my other offers ranged were either CCC or CBB.
So now I'm supposed to reply to my offers however I've recently changed my mind on what course I want to do. Instead of biology I want to do midwifery. But one issue is that only 3 out of my 5 uni's do it, and Exeter isn't one of them.
So my first issue is whether or not the university's that do, do it will let me change, and then which one do I put first.
My next issue is one that normally makes people laugh. It's a distance thing. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and haven't spent more than one night apart in that time. I honestly don't know how I will be able to go away for weeks at a time. I know for a fact I'd rather not go to uni and be able to spend everyday together, but equally I want a career.
We've talked about getting a flat together in which ever place I go to but the thing is I won't know where I'm going till results day. Which would give us about two weeks to find somewhere to live and for him to get a job.
Another problem is that we are broody as f***. We've talked so much about kids etc. And it's the one thing we both know we want. University is a relatively new idea for me and if I dont go I'm pretty certain that within the next couple of years without uni stopping us we'd have a baby..... Which I really wouldn't mind. We have this idea of us with quite a few kids (I mean maybe 5 or 6). I know I'm only 19, but my oh is 25 and if we want loads of kids would it be better to have them now and career later??
I don't even know if I want to go to university.... The thought of another three years of education makes me uncomfortable but I just don't want to be in a shop forever....
I get that, sorry I missed your by the way, but I figure that we could argue the best course of action.
hmmm. . . idk. You could try here but it might get taken down like my last debate (ironically titled) was
Why don't you ask here?