You can not stay in a happy relationship without sex

April 6, 2016, 3:34 pm

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The debate "You can not stay in a happy relationship without sex" was started by Pugsly on April 6, 2016, 3:34 pm. 7 people are on the agree side of this discussion, while 25 people are on the disagree side. That might be enough to see the common perception. It looks like most people are against to this statement.

cancer_wins posted 1 argument, bennie posted 2 arguments, Pugsly posted 10 arguments to the agreers part.
Alex posted 1 argument, PsychDave posted 10 arguments to the disagreers part.

Pugsly, cancer_wins, bennie, ProudAmerican888 and 3 visitors agree.
PsychDave, RyanWakefield, Anandapadmanabhan, peacock, Freyja, R_o_h_i_t, bigB, Thomas_Jefferson, ReadyToBegin, Razor, codyray16 and 14 visitors disagree.

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3 years, 6 months ago

is sex fun? please answer.

3 years, 6 months ago

This seems to have gone from a hypothetical debate about the possibility of a happy relationship without sex to a conversation about you seeking permission to either break up with or cheat on your significant other. If I am misinterpreting your comments I apologize, but if that is the case we really shouldn't be discussing this in the abstract as we were since those situations really are not relevant to your situation. I know you said previously that some examples couldn't be included, but at the time I couldn't understand why.

3 years, 6 months ago
PsychDave
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If you see as your partner's value in the relationship as being the sex you get, that is already nit a healthy relationship. You whole argument is based on the premise that your partner should either put out or you should be free to find someone who will. What about their wants and needs?

If you are in a sexual relationship and suddenly there is no sex, something has to have changed. It could be psychological (like depression), it could be physiological (like pregnancy), or it could be that they are angry with you for something (like you expecting sex as their form of rent). Instead of believing that you shouldn't be thought less of for wanting to abandon the relationship, you should be trying to figure out what has changed.

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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I could see it kinda if both are asexual. But, with most the population that is sexaully active or at least has a sexual wants or needs. Could they be happy with no sex I'm asking this to see; if it's a reasonable reason to break up or get a divorce. So, is it?
I personally say yes because, if one works all day and the other person doesn't. Then after 6 months go by.
I personally would start to get pissed and wonder what is the point of me supporting both of us.
I lose more money. Now, I'm not telling people to go out and kick who out on the street. But, why should I tell everyone else that I'm taken when I'm not having any fun.
I could be out there trying to get some; I'm now stuck in this relationship if I say I want out I'm a peice of shit but, if I go have sex with someone else I'm also a peice of shit.

3 years, 6 months ago
PsychDave
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Because people can enjoy one another's company without desiring sex.

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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I must add that I could see why two asexual people would get married. for the financial reasons but besides that why!?

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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That's a very good point. But, what's the point of dating if you don't want sex? Why don't they just go out with friends?

3 years, 6 months ago

By this line of reasoning, asexual couples are incapable of having a fulfilling relationship.... That's nonsense.

The real query her is that one cannot be in a fulfilling relationship unless ones needs are met. If those needs happen to include sex, then yes, it won't be a fulfilling relationship. If one doesn't need sex to be fulfilled, then sex has no bearing on the relationship.

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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They can't be included because they have no sexual interest, so they don't have any real reason to leave. Devours causes them to lose money. So, for financial reasons they do stay together.

3 years, 6 months ago
PsychDave
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Why can't they be included in the mix? They are staying in a happy relationship that does not include sex. What disqualifies them?

I have never said that all relationships that do not include sex are happy any more than you are saying that all relationships that do are. I am merely pointing out that there are examples and situations where a relationship can not include sex without being unhappy. I am sorry that you had a bad experience, but even if your experience is the norm, there are still people who can be happy in a non-sexual relationship. People used to do it all the time when it was the norm to wait for marriage.

3 years, 6 months ago

is sex fun?

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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I've had a few relationships where; I thought I loved the other person. The reason it failed was because I didn't do anything sexual and I was paying for everything we did.
If I wanted to hangout with someone; I would hang with my buddies, plus I wouldn't have to pay for the two of us. I would only have to pay for me.

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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Just for the record he I do not hold that view that all relationships are lies unless you marrie.

3 years, 6 months ago
PsychDave
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I can't speak for your relationships, but there are people whose relationships are not based on a lie. Obviously no one is completely open about everything, but that is very different from claiming that all relationships are built on a lie until marriage.

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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Yeah that happens alot but, they can't have sex so their body no longer wants it. So, you can't put them into the mix.

3 years, 6 months ago
PsychDave
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Then you obviously have never been in a committed relationship with someone you love.

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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You would love her in sense you still care about and for her. But, I highly doubt you would be happy.

3 years, 6 months ago
bennie
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if you're not married, there's no such thing as a happy relationship, its a relationship based on lie, because you never know hows that person really is until you get married.

3 years, 6 months ago
swat
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iam 15 i know nothing about sex.

3 years, 6 months ago
PsychDave
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Let's look at another situation. Imagine a couple that has been married 50-60 years and is no longer physically able to have sex. Do you think they stop loving each other and that their relationship is over?

3 years, 6 months ago
PsychDave
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So in your opinion a relationship starts with sex?

If my wife decided she didn't want to have sex for some reason, I would continue to love her. Our relationship is not contingent on sex.

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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So what would you do if your wife didn't give you any sex? No, more sex for you. You telling me your going to be happily married?
What, happend to the 6 months no sex? Without sex their is no dating.

3 years, 6 months ago

who were the women? i have many guesses should i tell you heh?

3 years, 6 months ago
PsychDave
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I dated women for more than 6 months before we had sex, so OK. I am married and happily so. How about yourself? Relationships are based on more than sex.

3 years, 6 months ago
Pugsly
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Well, why don't you not have sex for 6 months or more and tell me how your relationship goes. I'm saying this cause I want to see if people think that sex has nothing to do in dating.

3 years, 6 months ago

If you cannot imagine a happy relationship without sex, that means you believe that you can't have a happy relationship UNTIL you are having sex. You can have a happy relationship before having sex.

Another time when any healthy relationship will not include school is after the birth of a child. I won't go into why, but I would hope it is obvious.

Healthy, happy relationships can include sex, but sex is not needed to be happy.

3 years, 6 months ago

in a marraige relationship yes. in a non-marraige relationship. nope.

3 years, 6 months ago
bennie
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the more sex there is the better the relationship

3 years, 6 months ago

sex is life

3 years, 6 months ago
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